But sometimes, it’s just downright brutal.
Some of you will remember that last year, during my frozen cycle, I met up with some other endo girls in Seattle. They came to my hotel room and we spent the night gabbing with friends who “got” it. It was an incredible relief to have people there to talk to who understood this disease and wanted only to support me as I was laying low post cycle.
A while back I mentioned Elizabeth. One of those girls who had been there that night, and who had gotten pregnant with twins going to the same clinic I had gone to. A few days after their birth though, her son stopped breathing. Two weeks later he passed away in the hospital. It was heartbreaking and shocking and so very very unfair.
Elizabeth has been doing incredibly well since that point in time, and has proven herself to be one of the strongest women I’ve ever met. Her daughter has also thrived and is a happy, healthy baby.
But still… no one ever expects to bring home a healthy baby only to lose them a few days later. Life just shouldn’t work like that. Not for anyone, but especially not for anyone who has had to work so hard for that happiness in the first place.
One of the other girls who was also there that night had her first IVF cycle earlier this year. And it worked. She became pregnant with twins. And even though there have been a few scares along the way, things seemed to be going well.
She lost them yesterday though. At 20 weeks. Her little boy was gone before he even arrived in this world, and her little girl had only 20 minutes with her mom and dad before she joined her brother.
No one ever said that life would be fair.
But I’m struggling to understand why it should ever have to be so damn cruel.
If you have any love, or prayers, or healing thoughts to send, I’m sure there is a hurting mother over at Miss Conception who could use whatever support she could get right now.
Because life just isn’t fair.
And yesterday, it took a cruel twist into the realm of heartache that no one should ever have to face.
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