Do you want to know a not-so-secret secret?
I have my baby daddy options narrowed down to 3 fine specimens, and now I need your input.
That’s right. I am putting my baby daddy selection needs out to all of you. You know what they say about it taking a village to raise a child? Well I’m pretty sure it takes a village to choose the most suitable sperm! I’ve never hidden anything in this space, and I’m not about to start now. I have 3 pretty great donors, and now I need help choosing “the one”!
There are things about each donor that I like, and things that I dislike. I’ve got one donor from California Cryobank (CC), and 2 from Fairfax Cryobank (FC). I do have to say that FC offers so much more information for free (including medical histories), which I really like. CC made me pay $24 for a baby picture, while FC gave me both for free (I do now have baby photos of each possible donor). Also, for the donor I like at CC; they only have washed vials – which means his sperm is more expensive. Washed vials cost more and are necessary for IUI cycles, but they are not necessary for IVF cycles. FC has IVF vials for both donors I like, which means both of those donors would cost me less if I chose them.
Since I was able to get more information from FC I feel as though that is slightly weighting my decision. I like the CC donor a lot, but don’t want you to be confused about why there is less information for him – There was also a bit more information on the CC donor that I’m not including simply because it was on hand written forms that I couldn’t copy and paste. It was nothing game changing though. To get the same amount of donor information from CC that I got from FC for free though, I would have needed to pay money than I wasn’t willing to pay at this stage. I’m not opposed to spending it if I choose that donor (so that I have as much information in my files later on for my baby to be to access) but I’m not willing to pay for it right out the gate.
You should know that my main criteria for picking these donors were: Open ID donor (meaning they are willing to be contacted after the child is 18), green eyes, dark hair, and over 6’. Those were my “must haves” and everything else varies from guy to guy.
CMV status is the one category I am really struggling with. Only 1 of these donors is negative. I have never been tested and don’t know whether or not I am positive – I will also not be getting tested. It’s just not one of those that is regularly tested for since it has no symptoms unless contracted during pregnancy. I’ve been told it may be safer to choose a negative donor since I don’t know what I am, but that it isn’t crucial. CMV is an STD that carries no symptoms. 80% of people have it, and if we are being completely honest: given those statistics and my past (which I have never denied here), it is fairly likely that I am a carrier. If I am, the status of my donor has no significance. If I’m not, the status of my donor could have some effect. It wouldn’t be major, but it could lead to some complications during pregnancy. The thing is, if I were to have a baby the “normal” way, I would never know the status of my partner ahead of time. I am very torn on how much weight to place on my donors CMV status.
So here’s how this is going to work. In order to optimize discussion, there is going to be a profile posted today, tomorrow, and Wednesday at The Community for each donor. You will be able to discuss the donors individually as soon as their profiles pop up. Once all three are up, there will be a “like” button you can click on for the donor of your choice so we can see who get’s the most “votes”. I’ll post links to the new donor profile here every day as well.
I have seriously been anxious all day to get this ball rolling – I really and truly do need some added input. So, without further adieu – here is the profile for Donor number 1.
Are you ready to help me pick my baby daddy?!?
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